Am I Getting More Judgemental With Age?

Today we went to an international BBQ to meet incoming students and just get to know them. I got placed at a table with both guys and girls, so it seemed like it would be a cool table. The group we went with had one "conversation leader" at each table, and ours seemed like a pretty animated guy, so I was content with just making side conversations with people near me.

Throughout the entire night, I kept getting uncomfortable vibes from him by a lot of the comments he would make (either to me, or to the girls he was talking to). I just got the impression he was there for more than just "ministry". Because I was really tired, I told myself I was just being paranoid, and he was just unaware of how some of his comments could be perceived.

It wasn't until a bunch of people went to eat froyo that red flags were going off all over. I got my yogurt first, so I grabbed a ton of tables and chairs together so everyone could sit together. He saw me, then went to the corner of the place and tried bringing some girls with him. I was sitting with this guy, and I didn't want to embarrass the creepy guy publicly so I waved at them and told them they could join us. The girls pointed over and said they wanted to join us, and the guy reluctantly got up and grabbed another table next to us and sat there.

OK, whatever. What really got me upset was when we were leaving. We were milling around outside the shop (in typical Asian American fashion) and there was a group of what looked like sorority girls near us. He nudged the Japanese student (only 18!) and said:

you should go over there and get some of that. I'm sure you'll be a hit... you just need to get a haircut to get that hair out of your eyes, and get rid of that long hair in the back. I recommend going to a gay hairstylist, maybe a Mexican one. Wait until I take you to party down in 6th Street. It's crazy down there!

At that point, we steered the conversation to events that were coming up as we were trying to figure out rides. When we all turned to leave, he ends up shouting, "Don't forget to go to church!"

Wow. Seriously? I had never been so turned off or annoyed in my life. My mind was castrating him for making Christians look so freakin FAKE. It really got me thinking about how even so-called Christians need Jesus: sometimes more than the "heathens".